Manifestation is always happening in your life, whether you are consciously aware of it or not. Literally, everything around you is a manifestation of your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. So by definition, the people in your life are also here because on some level, consciously or subconsciously, you have invited them in.
Now, we totally get that this can be a difficult concept to get behind – especially if you’re currently experiencing toxic relationships or difficult times with someone you love (because who would want to manifest that, right?). But, as the saying goes ‘we only accept the love we think we deserve.’ So if you’re experiencing a relationship in your life that you don’t feel is positive, then it may be time to have a look inwards and figure out why it’s there and what it’s trying to teach you.
The same goes if you want to attract new people into your life – you can use the power of intentional manifestation to do this and truly create the relationships of your dreams. This goes for friends and lovers, alike. So without further adieu, we’re going to share our top tips for how to manifest someone into your life. Grab a coffee (or matcha if you’re not like other girls) and get ready to welcome in your new BFF with ease 🤨.
where do i start?
As with all manifesting, getting clear on what you want and why is super important. Why do you feel you want (or need) someone in your life? What are they going to bring to you that you feel you desire? Is it: love, laughter, fun, companionship, a shoulder to cry on, adventure, sex? Before looking at welcoming someone new into your life in the hopes to fulfil these things, have you looked at why they might be lacking at the moment? Is there a part of you that is hoping to find fulfillment in someone else? One of the key things to remember here is that no one can complete you, you can only complete yourself, so to manifest someone new should only be to add to an already full existence, rather than to make you feel whole – are you with us?! It’s all within YOU girl!
Once you feel confident that you’re not bringing someone in because you feel you’re lacking in yourself, then it’s time to get manifesting. While it’s important to understand the sort of relationship you want, let’s not get too specific on the exact person – height, hair color, dress sense, etc. – these can all be wildly different and if you’re too hung up on the outer appearance, you could very easily close yourself off to truly awesome relationships simply based on looks.
Remaining open to all possibilities is one of the best things you can do (and this goes for literally anything you’re trying to manifest), so be clear on the feeling you want to get from this person, but also stay open to whatever shape or size they come in! Some questions you could ask yourself at this stage to help you get clear are:
- What role will this person play in your life, why do you want them in your life?
- How do they make you feel?
- What are their views on life, their values?
- What do you imagine bringing to each other?
Remember, manifesting is all about matching your energy to what you want, so rather than looking to attract a specific person, try to think about the values and morals you want them to have, and what this will make you feel. Once you’ve got a picture of why you want to manifest them and what they’ll bring to you, it’s time to expand on this.
Before that though, manifesting a person can be a lot different from manifesting an inanimate object like a house. Manifestation is all energy-based, attracting like-energy to like-energy, and so manifesting a house can be more simple because the energy of the house is constant, it doesn’t change. However, the energy of people is different. Take yourself, for example. Your energy can differ greatly week-to-week, day-to-day, or even hour-to-hour, and it’s impacted by many different things, including your thoughts, beliefs, and surroundings.
Remember, stay positive, clear, and open to receiving in any and all ways and the Universe will always send you what you want or something better.
So now you’re clear on why you want to manifest someone and what they will bring to your life, you now need to become an energetic match to what you want. You’ve narrowed down who they are so now you need to start being more like this yourself. If you’re wanting to attract a romantic partner who is very loving, for example, you must start being more loving too. Energy attracts energy – if you want someone who is going to make you laugh, then you need to start laughing more! The Universe will send you what makes you feel good or grateful or happy or loving, so feel what you want to attract now, and you’ll get more of that sent your way!
The more you can become an energetic match, the quicker you’re going to receive your manifestations. But what if you’re doing all this already and still not manifesting what you want?
why am i not seeing results?
This can be really hard, we know. You’re trying to manifest a text or call from someone or trying to manifest a ‘meet-cute’ but it just ain’t happening. Well, this won’t be what you want to hear, but you’re going to have to let go of some of the grip you have on this desire. When we become too attached to what we’re trying to manifest we tend to push it away even further because the Universe is responding to the energy you’re putting out – desperation and lack – and it’s giving you more of that. This is a big no-no.
So release and surrender. Trust that the right person will come into your life at the right time, whether that’s the exact person you think you want or not, and most importantly, remember to live your life in the here and now anyway! And if you wanna hear more about our favorite way to manifest, read about the Law of Assumption here.